“Niggas ain’t shit”

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Now before I get started understand I’m willing to receive a lot of hate in order to defend what I’m fond of , respect me for it ! At least I’ll burn with integrity. 

Believe me when I tell you, in most cases you are what you attract. Unless you’re one of those “we had nothing in common and that’s what I liked” type of people. Now when you share common interest & lifestyles I’m sure it’s nice but people don’t take into consideration that in most cases when you’re in a relationship you get out what you put in. Meaning many women might not notice they aren’t putting in the “all” they except a man to put in because to them it’ll be made up by their other half without realizing that this eggs on a 80/20 relationship. 

The biggest problem is generalization, now don’t say “well those are facts” because realistically speaking many generalizations made about women are more than 50% true, yet it’s not necessarily respected since women feel like they are picked on more unfairly than the opposite sex. At the rate we’re going it’ll definitely be equal, bullying you can say, between both parties sooner than later. I’ve learned many new ways to deal with a certain kind of person after every experience with the opposite sex. Many people disregard the logical aspects, and instead of generalizing the fail of a premature relationship I reflect instead of blaming men. 

Learn to appreciate the infamous “ain’t shit” nigga, they are indeed extremely truthful. I’ve noticed that careless men aren’t appreciated like they should be for instance, they tell you what it is while letting you know what it is not. Unfortunately it is often warped into a forced Love because instead of being accepting of, women try to change characteristics of the person to make them adapt to their needs or what they consider “relationship material”. When you think of it that way you notice that everything was fine before you tried to fix something that wasn’t necessarily broken. If a man tells me they do not want to move on into a wholesome relationship then so be it, I accept it then I move on. What exactly do you get out of forced change except resentment from the other party? 

As you progress with your love life you start to admire the little things like truth. You learn everything is by choice not force and that makes it easier to be accepting. Character traits are important to pay attention to it’ll help distinguish what kind of person you’re with. Remember you can’t make anyone do anything they don’t want to do that’ll only turn you into an inconvenience. Some people must be taught but the difference between teaching and making is the other person must be willing to learn. 

So think before you say “Niggas ain’t shit” and reflect on if signs were given and you fell victim to denial. Or maybe the universe didn’t align you two for a reason but you wanted to be selfish and accidentally brought misery upon yourself. 

You don’t love me like you use to

Post 11

Now before I get started understand I’m willing to receive a lot of hate in order to defend what I’m fond of , respect me for it ! At least I’ll burn with integrity.

Accept the fact people are only going to generally like the idea of you let alone y’all together, once you’re realistic with that it’ll contribute to making life a little easier to live. 

The “bright” side to that is just know you’re indented in their mind forever. The potential love interest just goes around looking for you in someone else & when they think they found it best believe it’s not authentic so the outcome is disastrous. Even though it might hurt you to watch from a distance because your actually at peace enough to wish the other person the best of luck you can’t intervene. Yes it might hurt you to watch someone you once adore burn in flames but it is what it is. 

It took me years to understand “you love the idea of me”, the “idea” why would you like the idea of me and not the actual me being with you, you can have me but you rather dream of what we could’ve been, stupidity such as that I’ve accepted as “dodging a bullet” because in their head it’s okay and they don’t see how it doesn’t make any sense because they’re to busy being superficial. 

I respect it everybody lives differently, I’ll go ahead and give someone the benefit of doubt and say they’re looking out for me by not being greedy with my presence and leaving me emotionally distraught. Think of it as “Ideas turn into dreams until you move forward into making them reality” & without the actual you in the persons life that’ll never happen so they have no choice but to settle for a lesser value of a person. 

It’s never bad on your behalf because by the time you realize all of this your patiently waiting or them to get it together, I suppose most carry on with their life, because you see the potential together as a unit. The love was unconditional and sincere so it’ll always be something there whether it’s through a simple friendship or admiration from a distance. 

Live easy, the end. 

Friendly Rejection

As years progress You can tell which friendships grow on you in positive and negative aspects. 

When I say friendly rejection I’m not talking about being “Friend Zoned”. I’m referring to the attempts of building bonds with people and you guys just don’t relate or they might not see the coolness you see in yourself. 

1. Weird – Suggesting something is supernatural; Uncanny. 

• People use the term weird wrong all the time, just because someone doesn’t fit in with you appearance wise or morally doesn’t mean they’re “supernatural” just simply different that’s all. People see you dancing to the beat of your own drum and think you’re weird because you give off your own type of energy. I’ve been called weird all my life & I used to think it was so bad like “ew what the fuck, never” but I just realized it’s not bad at all I’m “Weird” and you’re “Regular” you are what we call predictable, I would be concerned if I was you, you have no Za Za Zu! I didn’t have that mindframe previously though so I spent like 2 years fixing myself appearance wise especially to fit in… to nothing ! I look back like WHAT THE FUCK was so important in copying people that didn’t even acknowledge the fact I tried to adapt to their way of living to be their friend, on top of the fact I have surpassed more than most of them in my life, anyways.

2. Annoying – causing irritation or annoyance. 

• I was always the annoying friend from multiple aspects which is kind of intriguing. I was either annoying because I was to “mothering” but I mean I can’t help it if I want the best for you, I consider you … my friend. Then I would be annoying in an obnoxious manner but I always considered that as a form of mild, unaccepted, admiration meaning I love you, I want to be around you, you are cool to me! I LIKED YOU! Eventually you learn to back off no matter how much you either want to intervene because you know the person can do better than they are producing or be in someone’s presence because they make you sincerely happy. 

3. Independent – Free from outside control; not depending on another’s authority. 

• When you are not easily influenced by others they stay away from you, and when you’re younger you wonder “what’s the problem? We can still be cool” but what you don’t realize is technically you’re no use to them if you aren’t  willing to be a test dummy, which is totally fine by me. “Stand up for whatever you believe in even if you’re standing alone.” & I put this to help justify the importance of you believing in yourself unapologetically, so make sure your well being mentally & physically are okay because you’re able to live at your own desired discretion. If someone can’t respect you as a person along with your mindframe you don’t need them in your life anyways. 

It took me a while to pay attention to this type of stuff because I had no choice but to enjoy the company of myself on many occasions, and with doing that it gives you time to simply self reflect and learn yourself. I appreciate the people who never cared to be my friend after a long struggle of me trying because it showed me to give everyone a chance UNLESS something that crosses the line happens then I can’t associate with you anymore, but that’s a given. It’s no telling how much someone wants you in their life and just because you don’t have too much in common I don’t think you should necessarily ignore them, hear them out have simple conversations… adapt a new way of thinking it’ll open your mind in a very positive way. 

What is love…

What is love?

I love the idea of love as a whole.

I’ve noticed it’s different types of love and it’s ways people go about showing love with that being stated why is some love accepted more morally than others?

Love is deeper than a fairytale wedding, or a few photographs with a nice message.

I believe “we” as a generation would be better at loving each other relationship wise if we didn’t rely on each other to give us a happiness we haven’t even gotten a chance to give ourselves. We aren’t completely satisfied with who we are that’s why the opinions of others matter, depending on what kind of person you are, so when we finally get someone we’re infactuated with we don’t want to lose them so you basically fight a ongoing battle with yourself because since we’re young souls we’re constantly learning something about ourselves we didn’t know before and when we embrace these new characteristics it comes across as a “negative” change instead of a form of growth, which also stops the prosperity of a relationship when building it in youth because we’re not complete masters of patience. To help make this process less difficult don’t love anyone until you love yourself, sincerely it’ll make it 10x easier and if the person really see your potential they’ll kind of wait for you to get it together but! Don’t take advantage of that because you know you see their potential as a lover and overdue their willingness to let you get yourself together that’s selfish.

• Some people have never experienced the non-negative aspect of “love” so hate is the only way they can give their idea of love because they don’t know any better, the only thing you can do is wish them better days and hope eventually they get it together.
• Its people who don’t know how to display affection at all instead of getting irritated work with them, it doesn’t mean they love you any less they just don’t know how to explain it to the point you know your appreciated enough.
• There are people deeply in love with themselves & that’s fine too they are fully aware of their lack of a love interest because they have themselves through thick in thin their are not depending on someone else to give them something they can give themselves and they’re okay with that.
• Some people absolutely positively love the idea of loving you because they know how beautiful yall existence could be but that’s all it is a theory within the mind of a maniac because as much as they love the idea of you guys together they’ll never actually be satisfied with being with you, I know it can hurt but it’s reality.
• It’s a kind of person that just enjoys the simple things and with that being said don’t ever feel like you’re not doing enough or could do more because they are satisfied, their main concern is just you that’s all.
• It’s people who are stuck in their ways, let them be, don’t try to change them just love them for who they are or leave them alone.
• Then last but not least it’s the people who are thankful you have taken the time to love them, respect them, and give them the chance to do the same to you.

I honestly believe you can fall out of love, because if you relate love to other things since it’s unconditional when we’re younger we love a lot of stuff but as we get older the importance of other things become a priority more than other and eventually we don’t care for the presence of one thing in particular, it’s no hard feelings but it’s just not the same and I think those are one of the best bonds to have because they are sincere yall have the best intentions for each other and respect each other that’s true love to me personally (it doesn’t always have to end) but relatively speaking I know you guys get the point. That’s why I think bonds are the essential key regarding any type of relationship being built because you recognize the flaws but the good outways the bad and your accepting of that. You’ll deal with it because we love the person for who they are and see their potential along with wanting them to do good.

Here is a complimentary song that goes with the post, thank you.

Your love is king – Sade

Make it last forever

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Now before I get started understand I’m willing to receive a lot of hate in order to defend what I’m fond of , respect me for it ! At least I’ll burn with integrity.

“Females put themselves through misery when they’re in a relationship with a careless man/boy, why? Because that makes them feel important” Some women/girls stay for the simple fact they have nothing else to do, so feeling like they boyfriend/husband will eventually “act right” is an “accomplishment” not even realizing they really FORCED their presence upon the man first of all & second of all he didn’t necessarily change for the greater good just changed how to hide evidence etc if that’s what you want to call it.

I’m not “concerned” but more curious on why some females are so dense when it comes to relationships, my conclusion is … *drum roll*

1. They don’t want to seem weak because they gave up on the person they are so deeply in love with.
2. It might definitely be a benefit the girl is receiving, maybe it’s the fact he might have money, might be the cutest thing ever, or even compliment each other well to others so she’s living off of the opinions of society.
3. They don’t want to “start over” with someone new.
4. A large amount of the world feels like if you don’t have a man your doing Something wrong, even considered a slight sign of weakness.
5. It’s a possibility the female might have low self esteem & in her case the good might outway the bad ,barely, nothing an apology can’t fix in their head & an apologies are deeply appreciated because it’s a sign of sincerity.
6. The fact they can play the role of Joey Franko from Cheaters and find out if their partner is cheating can be amusing to them because they wouldn’t be considered “stupid” since they figured it out so they see nothing wrong with the situation because at the end of they day they’re finding out the truth… eventually.
7. Maybe it’s about attention, after being publicly embarrassed for instance you develop an audience and people come to your rescue because they’re fascinated in the situation outside looking in & that’s okay because it reassures the female that SOMEONE still cares even if it’s not the person they desire to be with.

At the end of the day we’re going to blame it all on being in love Anyways so to each his own because we all love differently. You never know maybe you’ll be so deeply in love your blind to reality too.

To close this out I give you guys two songs regarding the nature of this post.

From Time – Drake ft Jhene Aiko

Problems & Selfless – PND